We’re honored to have Jenny Layton of The Happy Gal guest posting on our blog today on five ways to feel comfortable in a swimsuit! It’s part of a week-long campaign we’re teaming up on to encourage you to love your body – even when it’s in a swimsuit. Check out Jenny’s post and the giveaway we have going on all week long!
5 WAYS TO FEEL COMFORTABLE IN YOUR SWIMSUIT
The seasons play a funny trick on us when it comes to body image.
All winter long, nestled deep beneath sweaters, jackets, and other cozy layers, all the insecurities about our thighs, stomachs, and upper arms feel like a thing of the past. We almost convince ourselves (in between bites of bread pudding and pumpkin pie) that gone are the days of petty concern and worry about what we look like. It seems we have finally moved past the insecurity of our younger days, and we’re ready to accept ourselves and our bodies just as they are. (What was all the fuss about last summer, anyway?)
And then the warm weather hits, and it turns out that those complexes were just hibernating. ‘Cause just like that you find yourself right back in the game, dreading the day your kids beg you to take them swimming, and you have to face that swim suit again.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. As the summer heats up, so do the body image issues… and you’d be surprised how many women feel the same anxiety as you do. Summer clothing exposes not just more of our bodies, but the vulnerability we can feel about them. And in a society where we are constantly exposed to an unrealistic ideal, it is easy to be less than kind to ourselves.
But this summer can be different. It really can! It’s not our bodies that need to change; it’s our mindset. Below you’ll find 5 ways that I coach women to help them feel more comfortable in their swimsuit. And the good news? There’s so much more where this came from! I’m teaming up with some incredible women who also want to spread this message. We are calling it Love Your Body 2017, and each one of these women is bringing their own unique perspective to help YOU love every minute of your summer – even the minutes spent in your swim suit!
1. Stop judging others.
I have realized that checking everyone else out is not an innocent preoccupation. On the heels of my judgments comes an automatic internal comparison about where I fall in. Sometimes I come out ahead, and sometimes I don’t. But either way I lose, because whether I am inflated by a false sense of self-worth or disheartened because someone else looks better in her swim suit, I am not present with the people I came to be with. Which leads me to number two:
2. Be Present.
This is the antidote to feeling insecure. When I find myself caught up in what other people might be thinking, I gently bring myself back to reality by concentrating on the warm sunshine, the fresh air, the cool water, and the squeals and laughter of my children. Those are the things that happiness is made of, not some fleeting sense of triumph (or despair) because I look better (or worse) than the other women at the pool.
3. Be Grateful.
There are only two choices: 1- I wish my body looked better, and 2- I am grateful for my body. Which do you pick? Don’t be fooled into thinking that your body can validate you or give you the confidence that you lack. Bodies can’t do that. What bodies can do is give you the ability to live life. Be grateful for all of the ways your body allows you to do just that. When I sense myself becoming critical of how my body doesn’t measure up to the media’s ideals, I remind myself to be grateful for the way it serves me. This is what it sounds like: “I am grateful that I am healthy. I am grateful that I have plenty of energy. I am grateful that I live pain-free. I am grateful that I can everything that I want to do…” and so on. Talk about a turn-around!
4. Act As If.
This is one of my favorites. Often we let our insecurities dictate what we will and won’t do. We might avoid the pool, summer clothing, or activities with our families that would bring joy and meaning to our life. What would you do if you felt confident and comfortable in your body? As you begin to be the kind of person you want to be, you might notice that the harsh pre-requisite of having a perfect body or losing a certain amount of weight really is less significant than you thought. So ask yourself, what would you do this summer if you didn’t feel insecure about your body? Carpe diem, my friend. Life is short. Be the person you want to be; Do the things you want to do; create the memories you’ve always dreamed of, because chances are you’ll look back in ten years and wonder why you held yourself back.
5. Get a New Swim Suit.
It’s hard to feel confident when you are wearing an old, faded swimsuit or the one that you spent a lot of money on five years ago. Be kind to yourself and splurge on a really great new swimsuit, and maybe even a cover up and sandals. Get a pedicure while you’re at it! You’ll send a message to yourself that you are worth it. And once you are dressed in your new duds, let the criticism go. After all, you’re not on stage at a beauty pageant; you’re there to create memories with your family and friends.
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The transition between seasons can be a tricky time for your wardrobe. Is it warm enough to put away your sweaters? Monday was sunny but Friday it was cloudy and cold. What’s a girl to do?! But not to worry, tweaking your pieces to look chic for spring can be easy. Here are some tips on how to ease into spring fashion smooth sailing and leave you stylish for any weather.
1. Trade in your scarf for a printed bandana
Bandanas are all the rage this season. Lighten up your outfit with a cute printed bandana paired with a casual shirt and skirt combo and you’ll be right on with the fashionable trends.2. Pair your favorite jeans with a blazer and sandals
No need to stop wearing your favorite jeans for spring, wear them with your favorite sandals! Jeans and sandals paired with a cute blazer look great on any shape, and will give you enough layers to feel warm during the spring.
Another hot trend right now are the cold shoulder tops. They may be cute, but for those of us who don’t want to show off our shoulders, adding a Boyfriend Halftee underneath could be your fashion dream come true.
4. Spruce up an old sweater
You know that boring sweater in your closet you’re so tired of? Spruce it up with a cute button up shirt underneath to add some character and dimension to your outfit.
5. Bright white jeans for brighter days
What style screams SPRING better than white jeans?! Brighten up your outfit with all-white jeans and you’ll be strutting through your day like a rockstar.Incorporating these styles into your wardrobe transition will get you feeling confident and beautiful as you anxiously await warmer weather.
Everybody needs a Boyfriend. Boyfriends make the perfect base layer!
Today we’re talking about one of our favorite Halftee styles: The Boyfriend! We absolutely love our Boyfriends. And not just the men in our life ;) The Boyfriend as a base layer has a perfect fit. So many people ask where does it hit on the body? It hits right beneath the chest. If you are large breasted and wondering if the band will go over your chest, reverse the shirt. The neckline on the backside actually is higher up, so reversing the shirt will give you even more coverage. Our shirts don’t have tags so you are free to use it either way!
What is MODAL? Modal is a fabric that is a mixture of cotton made from beech trees. This fabric gives you a lot of great stretch without the restriction of a spandex. It creates an amazing soft feel of touch.
The sleeve length of a Boyfriend hits at just the right spot. It covers that insecure part of our arms that we all talk about. It hides that section on the back of our arms that may get a little bit flabby-the dreaded “bat wings.” This shirt gives you that nice feminine look on your arms, and great coverage above your chest.
The Boyfriend has a flat hem, opposed to a bias bound hem. Some people love the bias to give them a more dress-up feel, and others prefer the flat thinking it looks more like a current style. Some of our other styles have bias, but the Boyfriend has the flat on the neck and the sleeves.
What can you wear with your Boyfriend? Boyfriend’s are the perfect shirt to pair with a maxi dress. There is no way to wear a normal full length tee under a maxi dress- you are constantly pulling and tugging to keep it from riding up. I know I’m not the only one who has to hide in the corner or in a bathroom somewhere, reaching up our dress searching for our shirt to pull it back down. The rest of the day we’re either tucking it into our underwear or our tights or wherever to try to not have to pull it down, but we all know it never works. Which is why we created Halftee to cut off right below the chest! There is no tugging, pulling, giving you a nice clean look. Great coverage for our chest and to lean out our arms.
Boyfriend’s are perfect for the spring weather. We get cooler mornings and cooler nights, but the days are getting a little warmer. For a little coverage and warmth a Boyfriend is great under sleeveless tops.
Another trend that is big right now are jumpers. I love jumpers, but how do you wear a full length shirt under a jumper?? Even worse than than the maxi dresses, you’ve got legs so you can’t reach underneath and they have the cute little tapered waistlines, making it near impossible to adjust any full length shirt underneath.
What colors do we offer in the Boyfriend for a base layer? We offer: white, black, cream, brown, pink, red, gray, navy, coral, and sage. Black and white are easy colors to throw on, but the Halftee is a perfect way to add just a little splash of color to something that would otherwise be a little boring. Or if you want to get a different look with your clothes, one day you wear it with the white and next week you wear it with the coral and you have a whole different outfit on. We LOVE our Boyfriends!!
With the right pair of earrings, you can take any outfit to the next level. Some of the trendiest earrings will work just as well with a casual outfit as with a high-end ball gown --- meaning that you will always have a go-to option in your jewelry case no matter the occasion. The good news is you don’t even have to pay a great deal of money to enjoy earrings that follow the current trends. If you choose wisely, you will even end up with a timeless set of earrings that can last for decades as various trends come and go.
Choose Something That No One Else Has
The best way to accentuate your outfit is to choose an accessory that no one else out there will have. Most people think of one-of-a-kind earrings as being expensive, but that’s not always the case. Handcrafted earrings like those from Halftee are the perfect way to stand out and be unique on a budget. Because they are handcrafted, every single pair of earrings will be slightly different. While the general style is the same, your particular earrings will have their own personality which means you will never come across someone with the exact same pair. This way, you can follow the trends while being unique and take any outfit to the next level.
Go with A Simple Yet Elegant Design That Matches Everything
The trick to choosing earrings that accentuate a range of outfits in your wardrobe is to keep it simple. The options from Halftee do just this yet still give off an air of elegance. Think of them as a less expensive version of versatile pearls; they are simple enough to match any dress or other outfit you like but have an elegant appearance thanks to the sheen and high-quality materials used. Since the handcrafted studs and dangling earrings from Halftee are made from sterling silver, you can count on them matching anything in your closet. Their simplicity means that you can wear them with anything from a low-cut dress to your work clothes for casual Friday.
Timeless Designs Are The Best
To make your investment in perfect earrings truly last, opt for a timeless design. Simple studs will never go out of style and neither will a basic dangling earring. While trends come and go, some things consistently remain the same and a timeless shape like rectangular dangling earrings or circular studs will keep coming into vogue. If you aren’t convinced, take a look at pictures of celebrities throughout recent decades. Chances are you will see numerous similar earrings even as other trends, like big hoops or vibrant colors, come and go.
Check the Materials
When picking your next set of earrings, you want to make sure that you are making a good investment as well. Some earrings will be overpriced and made from low-quality materials as the manufacturer knows he can cash in on the trend and take advantage of less savvy buyers. Don’t be one of these victims and instead, choose earrings with a high-quality material like sterling silver. If you are going with a timeless design that is versatile enough to wear every day, you want to make sure that earrings themselves can stand up to regular use for years to come. Sterling silver is known in the jewelry industry for its ability to last a very long time and it is easy to maintain as well, extending its life-span. For those with sensitive ears, sterling silver earrings have an added advantage of being gentle since they won’t contain any potentially irritating metals.
Handcrafted Halftee Earrings
When it comes down to it, the handcrafted earrings from Halftee simply make the most sense for accentuating outfits this season. You can choose from the circular studs or the dangle earrings, or even get both considering they are so affordable. With these earrings in your jewelry arsenal, you will almost never need to buy another set of earrings.
I love affirmations and have them hanging all over my house. I believe that our minds have an untapped ability to change our world and to specifically change how we see it.
As women, I believe our two worst attributes are:
- Being too hard on ourselves, and
- Comparing ourselves with others.
Most of the time, all that does is blind us to who we are and our own unique and divine purpose. We are powerful and no matter our shape, size, or age, we can do exactly what we feel inspired to do if we think positively, work hard, and believe in ourselves.
Affirmations are statements that you repeat over and over to change your unconscious beliefs. I found an article with 101 Positive Body Affirmations and chose a few of my favorites to share with you.
Initially, I was going to choose ten, but could only narrow it down to twenty. Choose a few that resonate with you and look in the mirror as you repeat them several times daily. If you can find some of these positive body affirmations and allow yourself to see, hear, and feel them, you will find some shifts in the way you think about yourself and your body. Enjoy!
1. My body deserves love.
2. I am perfect, whole, and complete just the way I am.
3. I love and respect myself.
4. As long as I am good, kind, and hold myself with integrity, it doesn’t matter what other people think of me.
5. I am blessed to be aging. The only alternative to aging is death.
6. If I spend too much time trying to be and look like someone else, I cease to pay attention to myself, my virtues, my path, and my journey.
7. Self respect is underrated.
8. When I smile, I actually make other people happy.
9. Balance is the most important.
10. I am good stuff.
11. I am compassionate and warm. My presence is delightful to people.
12. Getting older makes me smarter.
13. It’s okay not to be the best all the time.
14. I can be healthy at any size.
15. My brain is my sexiest body part.
16. My body is a vessel for my awesomeness.
17. Taking care of myself feels good.
18. Being grounded and whole is what makes me beautiful. If I don’t feel grounded and whole, I can get there just by being still, breathing, listening to my intuition, and doing what I can to be kind to myself and others.
19. I can trust my intuition. It’s here to guide me.
20. I feed my body healthy, nourishing food and give it healthy nourishing exercise because it deserves to be taken care of.